Week 39: Fishing

Fishing with my Dad, circa 1980

Fishing is a tradition in my family. I grew up fishing with my father on the Chesapeake Bay and the Little Choptank River. I liked to sit on the bow of our boat, watching the sun’s quivering reflections on the waves, as we sped out across the water to where the river meets the bay. The open bay was so vast and beautiful, like the boundless presence of my father’s love. We spent many happy hours together on the water, side by side in our own world, casting for bluefish.

Another favorite fishing spot was in Georgia, where we would often spend a few weeks in the summer visiting my father’s relatives. The best part of the trip, for me, was fishing for catfish around a big pond with my Dad on his family’s farm. I loved to hear stories about his fishing adventures in the creeks and ponds of his own childhood. I was proud that I could absorb everything he taught me about fishing and I was never squeamish about holding up my little fish for the camera!

My boy on a fishing trip with his Grandfather

I loved mastering the flick of the wrist that sent the line flying out over the water. I loved the anticipation of patiently watching the bobber for any signs of a bite. I loved the thrill of reeling in a good catch, even if we tossed it back. Most of all, I loved being outdoors and spending time with my Dad. Now my father takes my son, Max, fishing, and I think Max loves it for all the same reasons.

This collage is a tribute to fishing, but it is not only about the catching of fish. It is about the special experience of being quietly absorbed in the rhythms of the natural world, and the connection to the loved ones with whom you share that experience. I included a treehouse in the final piece, which has been a recurring motif in my work, symbolizing childhood, sanctuary, and the possibilities of the imagination. In the quiet hours spent around a pond, love grows, ideas are born, and you just might reel in the big one.

Fishing, acrylic collage, 12 x 12

Detail, Fishing

Detail, Fishing

Detail, Fishing

Detail, Fishing


Week 4: Collage for My Father

My studio table and the collage in process.

Time folds back on itself. This collage celebrates the memories of my Dad when I was a child, while honoring him now as a father and grandfather in the present.  I have explored the symbol of my old treehouse in previous works, and brought it back here.  My Dad built this treehouse for me at our weekend home on the Eastern Shore of Maryland.  It was here that we spent many hours together on the Choptank River- fishing, crabbing, and watching the birds. The treehouse was a place of reverie, a place I would go by myself.  I enjoyed being alone, but never felt lonely.  I filled the branches of the tree with a tossed assortment of the things my father and I loved and shared: fresh figs, a ripe peach, sliced tomatoes, fishing, boating, blue crabs, waterfowl, lacrosse, physics, art, and piles of books.


It was great fun to work on this collage while my Dad was here visiting.  It is too easy to forget to let the ones we love know how much we appreciate them.  I wanted to pour a lifetime of love and gratitude for my father into this 12 ” x 12″ panel, and then share it with him in person.  While I was intent on getting enough studio time this weekend to finish the project, I reminded myself to balance that impulse with just spending time with Dad in the present.  That is the whole point after all– each of those special memories happened in the present moment, and more are constantly unfolding if we can only pay attention.  We spent an afternoon together downtown, had lunch at Orzo and went to see my show at Chroma Projects.  We went to my son’s basketball game, and sat outside on an unseasonably warm afternoon to watch him throw the football with his Dad, cheering him on with each spectacular catch. We cooked some great meals and had long conversations around the table.  I feel so connected to my Dad, and feel peace in the thought that there are no things left unsaid.

Dada Bob Comes to Visit: An Ode to My Father

My father is coming to visit this week. We call him “Dada Bob.” He lives about three hours to the north, so we enjoy his visits often. When my son was two years old and first beginning to stretch his linguistic powers, we coached our little tot in forming the words “Grandaddy Bob.” With his characteristic cleverness and brevity, he replaced that cumbersome moniker with simply “Dada Bob,” and it stuck.

There are so many things I want to say about Dada Bob. Watching him be a grandparent to my son continually bursts open my heart with the memories of him as a father. When I was a child I thought my Dad was the kindest, smartest, most cheerful, most generous, most knowledgable, most responsible, most trustworthy, most brilliant person I had ever met. My mother agreed. She used to point out to my sister and I how lucky we were that my father always came home after work in a good mood. (I was shocked to learn that some Dads didn’t come home from work cheerful, and some didn’t even come home after work.) For many kids, those illusions about our parents slowly fade as we grow up. Not for me. As I got to know him as an adult, they only became more true.

One of my favorite quintessential Dada Bob moments happened several years ago when my son was maybe four years old. Dada Bob was visiting and had gotten up early as usual. He had brought a small wooden airplane that he was looking forward to flying with our boy. As we all began to stir from our beds upstairs, I heard my Dad calling to his grandson from the stairwell, “Come on Max! It’s a great day! Let’s play!” Next were the sounds of excited little feet padding down the stairs, the feet of a boy who knew he was loved. He was learning that there was always someone who wanted to spend time with him and that each day brought wondrous new things to learn. I recognized this because it is exactly how my Dad had always made me feel, and still does.

When I was very small, I would sit on my Dad’s lap in his gold easy chair every night after the family dinner and watch “The Andy Griffith Show,” or “Wild Kingdom.” As I got older, he taught me about native birds and animals, and I drew and labeled them in a special notebook: Pintail, Canvasback, Wood Duck, Muskrat. We would get up early while my Mom and sister where still asleep and sneak off to go fishing together. He taught me how to watch the bobber and hook a catfish in a pond, how to cast for bluefish in the bay, and how to hold a live crab without getting pinched. In the kitchen I watched him cook, slicing the ripe tomatoes, stirring the zucchini and onions on the stove, cleaning the soft shell crabs, marinating the fish for the grill. I learned the simple joy of a fresh fig or a ripe peach picked just for me from a branch above my head. He built me a treehouse and I learned to love the leaves, the sky, and the far-reaching landscape.

He helped me with my math and science homework and showed me how to break down a word problem into neat mathematical phrases. He wrote out the times tables on a sheet of yellow graph paper in his blocky engineer’s handwriting, and we studied it together until I knew every one. I learned to love reading by his example, watching the piles of books accumulate beside his easy chair and overflow his nightstand. He threw the lacrosse ball with me in the front yard, me with my modern plastic stick, and he with his old wooden one from college. I started painting in high school and he gave me his old paint box and showed me how to carefully clean a brush by swishing it on a piece of brown soap, then re-shaping the bristles. He sent me off to a great university to study Architecture and paid the bill. When my mother got sick and died in my third year of college, he stretched himself to become both mother and father. We struggled together against the heavy cloud of sadness that was left in my mother’s absence. I admitted I did not want to be an architect and told him I wanted to be an artist. He paid for another year of college so I could double major. I got a scholarship to grad school and earned my MFA. He helped me move to New York, carrying all my heavy boxes of art books up the stairs to my new apartment. He helped me move back to Virginia (twice), carrying all the heavy boxes of art books again. I fell in love and got engaged. He walked me down the aisle and gave me away, but I am still his and he is still mine.